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    Dry sex: Women at pains to please

    December 8, 2014 — A dry vagina is seen as a disaster for sex in the West. Yet elsewhere, women will run serious health risks to avoid getting wet, says Dutch expert Tinde van Andel. ‘Dry sex’ feels best, they claim – for the man at least

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    To keep the vagina dry, women insert herbs, absorbent materials like paper, chemical cleaning agents, antiseptic or even toothpaste. A dry vagina is supposed to feel better for the man during intercourse. Men say they like the friction, heat and swollen tightness.
    But ‘dry sex’ also carries serious health risks, Dr van Andel warns. “It can lead to cuts and inflammation in the vagina and it suppresses the natural bacteria. All of which increases the likelihood of infection with sexually transmitted diseases, including HIV.”
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    The vagina-drying herbs women use often contain tannins, which give the sensation of dryness and tightening
    Dry sex is popular all over Africa – though it depends on ethnic background, and there are some notable kunyaza. In Indonesia too a wet vagina is frowned upon. “What is it with Indonesian and Western boys that they expect different things from my vagina?” complains Jakarta-based writer Arti Bebasari. Dryness is also favoured in parts of South America and the Caribbean, says Dr van Andel, who is a specialist in the medicinal plants of Suriname.
    The vagina-drying herbs women use often contain tannins, which give the sensation of dryness and tightening – like the dry feeling in the mouth from strong tea or red wine. Other plants contain irritating chemicals that make the vagina swell and become tight, so the man’s penis feels ‘bigger’.
    Sleeping around

    So what’s in it for women? Apart from the increased risk of infection, mostly just discomfort and pain during sex, says Dr Van Andel.

    They keep doing it because they think that otherwise their man will look for another girlfriend, she says. And both men and women often see vaginal discharge as being unhealthy and a sign that a woman has been sleeping around.
    Pineapple or cucumber

    It’s a similar story in Indonesia, Arti Bebasari explains. “They think being wet down there is a disease or something,” she says. Javanese women traditionally smoke their vaginas over smouldering herbs to dry the vagina and reduce itchiness.

    Also popular in Indonesia is the ‘tongkat Madura’, a cigar-shaped stick made of a plant root which is inserted in the vagina. It’s supposed to keep the vagina dry and ‘clean’ – and also to increase sexual desire.
    Tongkat madura is used to keep the vagina dry and increase sexual desire

    Certain foods have a bad name in Indonesia because they’re said to make the vagina wetter. “When you eat pineapple or cucumber, people here will automatically say, ‘Oh no, it’s going to make you really wet down there,’” says Arti Bebasari.
    Dependent

    So what’s Tinde van Andel’s advice to women whose partners want ‘dry sex’? “Say no, of course!” But it’s easy for her to say, she adds.

    “Women who live in countries where dry sex practises are common have probably been taught from an early age that washing the vagina with plenty of soap and drying agents is essential for a woman to keep her husband faithful and happy. Many are dependent on their husbands or boyfriends so they’re in no position to tell them what they want.”
    Proud to be wet

    And how does Arti Bebasari feel about dry versus wet? “I’m not Indonesian in this context,” she says.

    “I’ve had more sex with non-Indonesian men, so I believe that if I’m wet, that man is going to be happy, and I’m really proud. It actually feels good if you’re wet. That’s why they invented lubricant.”
    This article first appeared in Kenya’s Love Matters. It has been republished here with their permission.
    Tinde van Andel is co-author of the paper Dry sex in Suriname.
    Indonesian writer Arti Bebasari’s name has been changed.

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    Dryness is also favoured in parts of South America and the Caribbean,
    When its hot in the jungle of peace I go swimming in the ocean of love.....

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    • #3
      Originally posted by RichD View Post
      i thought St Lucia....
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      • #4
        Originally posted by Wahalla View Post
        i thought St Lucia....
        mii once dealt widd st lucian ooman soo mii disagree
        I have no desire to take all black people back to Africa; there are blacks who are no good here and will likewise be no good there.
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        • #5
          Originally posted by RichD View Post

          sizzla - dry cry


          I have no desire to take all black people back to Africa; there are blacks who are no good here and will likewise be no good there.
          Marcus Garvey

          satire protected speech soo more fiyah

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          • #6
            Sounds painful.
            But according to people in the know, is women with big "ahem" practice dem ting dere.......some use Alum to augment and tighten up the "ahem".
            Though I must confess the women say it is only used when de man dem "supuhm" or endowment pose a physical challenge on the "teeny weeny" side.

            In medicine, alum is regularly employed as an astringent to shrink tissues and reduce the discharge of bodily fluids, as a styptic to contract organic tissues and stop or reduce hemorrhage and bleeding, and as an emetic agent to induce vomiting when someone has ingested poison. It is also often used to enhance certain vaccines and to prevent or treat infections. Veterinarians typically advise pet owners to apply the powdered version to animal cuts caused by improper nail trimming as a way to stop bleeding.
            http://www.wisegeek.org/what-are-the-medical-uses-of-alum.htm
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            • #7
              what a painful article...
              Every obstacle is an opportunity in disguise.

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              • #8
                When its hot in the jungle of peace I go swimming in the ocean of love.....

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                • #9
                  tip toe out a big ppl augiment.
                  Your Liberty To Swing Your Fist Ends Just Where My Nose Begins

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                  • #10
                    Dry sex is usually fi men whe noh kno how fi properly please ooman, an tink sey every time shi ball out in pain, is pleasure, an ah soh it fi goh, which is real sad indeed.

                    Do dese oomen get orgasms?
                    Last edited by j-kid; 12-08-2014, 10:39 PM.
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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by j-kid View Post
                      Do dese oomen get orgasms?
                      *step in only for this*

                      heeem. women don't get orgasm from dem ahem. whatever state it is in.

                      *step out*

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                      • #12
                        Holy moly. I remember posting about "virgin soap" that I saw in an African store.

                        My *dad* used alum for shaving cuts. I use hydrocortisone cream to get rid of pimples. I would appreciate it if some altruistic poster could use it on their "no never mind" and report back to us all. Just kidding

                        Don't try that at home kids 😨
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                        • #13
                          Cultures are so different in the way things are perceived...this sounds painful on both sides. Does not seem to be in winners in this "dry" exchange.
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                          • #14
                            a follow up from This is Africa...it mentions virgin soap that Suesumba brought forward.......

                            Cameroon’s dangerous ‘virginity’ stone

                            October 30, 2014 — The demand for products which can restore a woman's honour by way of tightening her vagina has seen the popular sale of alum stone, a product usually used in the manufacture of aftershave and deodorant, in Cameroon's marketplaces. The stone might be effective but is said to be damaging to the vaginal area in the long run

                            Alum stone. Photo: Ebay.com







                            We all know how high the cost of beauty is.
                            Women in many societies go to great lengths and spend lots of money to preserve their image before men. In countries like Tunisia, doctors have had to perform hymenoplasties at the request of their patients who wanted to give their men the impressions that they were virgins. The popularity of “virginity soaps” in markets like Dubai are another example. That’s the nature of the prevailing patriarchal beast that we create and serve.
                            The solid incarnation of hydrated potasium aluminium sulfate or alum stone is quite a hit in the marketplaces of Cameroon where it is bought because of traditional beliefs that it can restore a woman’s virginity. It can be found in the country’s capital, Yaounde, and even in some of the most remote regions, at 1500 CFA francs (€2.2).
                            Chantal Mbi selling the white stone and other traditional products. Photo: Anne Mireille Nzouankeu

                            Despite the beliefs in it’s ‘tightening’ properties, it can cause more harm than good.
                            Ndangue Liliane Josiane Rose is a France24 Observer and she explained the phenomenon.
                            “Alum stone has different names in different regions. In the West, it’s called “wothi”, but on the coast, it’s called “loba”, which means “God’s thunder”. Women crush it into powder and mix it with water; sometimes, they add a bit of lemon juice or honey. They then use the concoction to clean their private parts, as the stone’s powder kills bacteria. But this mixture also provokes a momentary contraction of the vagina, which can give the appearance of virginity to a woman who has already had sexual relations,” she said.
                            “Alum stone is most often used for this purpose in the northern regions of Cameroon, as well as in some parts of Nigeria. It’s commonly used by Hausa people [one of the largest ethnic groups in Africa]. In areas where the majority of the population is Muslim, there is a lot of pressure on women to be virgins until their wedding night. If a woman is not a virgin, she runs the risk of being shunned by her husband, and the other women in her family will also be looked down upon.”
                            Photo: Anne Mireille Nzouankeu

                            Doctor Joseph is a gynaecologist in Yaoundé. In 2010, he worked in a clinic in northern Cameroon where he treated women suffering from health issues stemming from their use of alum stone.
                            “This so-called virginity is very short-lived, and sometimes the stone has no effect at all. However, its effects on a woman’s health are catastrophic,” he said.
                            “In general, women should not put any products in their vaginas, since vaginas have a self-cleaning mechanism. Alum stone destroys the vaginal flora that helps protect women from sexually transmitted diseases. Moreover, because the stone’s powder has the consistency of sand, it inevitably provokes irritations, which can lead to serious cases of vaginitis. Finally, if a woman uses alum stone regularly, it will cause the vagina walls to become rigid, and they can then tear when they give birth. This technique should absolutely not be used.”
                            What nonsense! How can you have a revolution without shooting people ? Lenin 26th October 1917...
                            If Christians go to heaven, I do not want to go to Heaven: Hatuey. 2/02/1512

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                            • #15
                              If yuh put rock stone up yuh vajayjay den it noh muss mek tings tighter? Chrrps. Bunch of idiots.

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