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  • Diplomat
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    Originally posted by RichD View Post
    Oh dear....

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  • Peasie
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    LoneWolf, what yuh doing up here in big people argument?

    Get back down to Mek Wi Reason. Now.

    And Merry Christmas to you and wife

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  • lonewolf
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    I thought this was PG rated sight? LOL The only time I've seen things get dirty was when the mud slinging happens after disagreements.

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  • Wahalla
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    African feminist porn!!!!!

    What would African feminist porn look like?

    May 21, 2014 — “Hey, have you seen Twi porn before?” he asked. “You’re joking” was my response. Twi porn? He put in a DVD and yes; it was a porn film with a heterosexual Ghanaian couple speaking Twi throughout.








    There are many things I have wanted to be in my life. A lawyer, an actress, a high-powered CEO of a communications agency, and at one point in time I briefly considered making porn. (I’ve also considered opening a brothel which would service women only, but that’s a subject for another article).
    I’m an African feminist so clearly any porn that I make would have to reflect that political standpoint. My relationship with porn has gone through many cycles. I don’t recall watching any ‘blue films’ (as we used to call porn in Ghana) during my teens. In my first ‘serious’ relationship in my early to mid 20s my partner and I tried to jazz up our sex life by watching porn. Specifically we watched what is usually classified as ‘Black porn’, which tends to feature Black British/Black American/Mixed Race women. Somehow that didn’t bring the excitement we were seeking, and we eventually threw away our stack of porn. Probably part of our inability to enjoy the porn was because I couldn’t switch off my brain from what I was studying during my Masters in Gender. At the most inopportune moments I would blurt out comments like, “Do you think she is really consenting to that?” and “How do we know that woman wasn’t trafficked?” What got to me the most were the frequent cum shots on a woman’s face. “Eugh, there is no way she can be enjoying that.” Then I read Andrea Dworkin and Catherine McKinnon and stopped watching porn for ages.
    I had never even thought about the fact that porn could be produced in different African languages
    “Have you seen Twi porn?”
    My next significant encounter with porn was a while after significant relationship number 1 had ended. I visited one of my best male buddies, and somehow during the conversation the subject of porn came up.“Hey, have you seen *Twi porn before?” he asked. “You’re joking” was my response. Twi porn? Could there be a greater oxymoron? He put in a DVD and yes; it was a porn film with a heterosexual Ghanaian couple that spoke Twi throughout. We laughed so hard during the film, and not in an erotic, oh this is so tantalising kind of laugh. In terms of the plot (yes there was an actual plot), the film was not at all radical, it was your standard woman walks into a man’s room, he starts chatting her up, somehow she is bowled over by his lyrics and before you know it they are going at it all hot and heavy where the sexual acts seemed designed to only please the man. I remember making a comment along the lines of, “Look, she doesn’t even seem to be having a good time.” But that film stuck with me. I had never even thought about the fact that porn could be produced in different African languages. We watched the film all the way through to the credits. The production company was based in the U.S. “Aha” we exclaimed.**“They should try making a porn film in Ghana and then they’ll see .”

    Feminist porn
    A few more years passed and I became more and more curious about exploring my own sexuality. On my travels I would make a point of visiting sex shops and would spend time browsing through the range of sex toys. Sometimes I would stop momentarily in front of the videos but somehow felt too intimidated to stop, pick up a cover, turn it over and read the blurb. Around the same period I started to hear about ‘feminist porn’. Apparently not all feminists thought porn necessarily resulted in violence against women. The sex workers movement was also growing, and at more and more conferences I would see sex workers advocating, ‘nothing for us without us’, and running panels where some workers talked about the choices they had made to engage in sex work. I started to imagine that, ‘okay, some of the porn out there could very possibly be feminist porn where the actresses are active participants, and have made choices about the job they wish to do.’ But there’s a part of my brain that thinks, ‘Hmmm, that may be all well and good but I doubt very much whether the women at Circle (a popular roundabout in Accra, Ghana) are there because they had an array of choices in their lives about what kind of employment they could seek, and chose to work in the sex industry. At the same time I recognise that the sex industry is diverse. So my friend whose salary is low, and is unable to pay 2 years rent up front (as landlords frequently request in Ghana), in the past had to maintain a relationship with a senior executive in her company (who by the way is an upstanding member of his church) because he pays her rent. She doesn’t come from a privileged family, and so has not had the support that people like myself have had where their parents are able to make a contribution to their rent, or allow them to live in their house whilst only making modest contributions to the running of the household. Some may even argue that the married woman who regularly has sex with her husband (not because she enjoys the sexual relationship) because she wants to make sure her children’s school fees are paid, and that she is given an allowance to run the house is engaged in some form of sex work.
    The camera would be equally focused on what gives women and men pleasure
    Diversity of bodies
    So if we accept that sex work takes many forms, and that there is a certain form of sex work that women might chosen to express their agency, and to secure their financial independence, can we imagine what African feminist porn would look like? In my imagination such porn would first of all be produced (i.e. be backed financially) by an African feminist. Having African actors and actresses in front of the camera alone would just not cut it. Behind the camera would be producers and directors politically committed to the possibilities that radical African feminist porn could hold as a space of exploration, and the reimagining of diverse African sexualities. Needless to say this porn would showcase a diversity of bodies without the exoticisation (close up shots on Baartmanesque buttocks) that one tends to see with ‘mainstream black porn’. Consent would be explicit and captured on camera through realistic lines like, “What would you like me to do to you?” What happens behind the camera would be critical. Actresses would be paid a fair wage. In my ideal utopian vision they would also get royalties when the film makes above a specified amount. Plot lines would include the use of various types of contraceptive devices especially dams and condoms. The gaze of the camera would be equally focused on what gives women and men pleasure. And African feminist porn would be available in multiple languages – Twi, Swahili, Ewe, Hausa…

    If you were to imagine African feminist porn, what would that look like to you?
    *Twi is one of the most dominant languages spoken by the Akans of Ghana
    **By ‘they’ll see’ we meant that nobody would dare create a hard-core porn film in Ghana. This was well over a decade ago and although Ghana has a law stating that the sale of obscene materials is illegal it is very easy to acquire porn.



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  • Peasie
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    If yuh put rock stone up yuh vajayjay den it noh muss mek tings tighter? Chrrps. Bunch of idiots.

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  • Wahalla
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    a follow up from This is Africa...it mentions virgin soap that Suesumba brought forward.......

    Cameroon’s dangerous ‘virginity’ stone

    October 30, 2014 — The demand for products which can restore a woman's honour by way of tightening her vagina has seen the popular sale of alum stone, a product usually used in the manufacture of aftershave and deodorant, in Cameroon's marketplaces. The stone might be effective but is said to be damaging to the vaginal area in the long run

    Alum stone. Photo: Ebay.com







    We all know how high the cost of beauty is.
    Women in many societies go to great lengths and spend lots of money to preserve their image before men. In countries like Tunisia, doctors have had to perform hymenoplasties at the request of their patients who wanted to give their men the impressions that they were virgins. The popularity of “virginity soaps” in markets like Dubai are another example. That’s the nature of the prevailing patriarchal beast that we create and serve.
    The solid incarnation of hydrated potasium aluminium sulfate or alum stone is quite a hit in the marketplaces of Cameroon where it is bought because of traditional beliefs that it can restore a woman’s virginity. It can be found in the country’s capital, Yaounde, and even in some of the most remote regions, at 1500 CFA francs (€2.2).
    Chantal Mbi selling the white stone and other traditional products. Photo: Anne Mireille Nzouankeu

    Despite the beliefs in it’s ‘tightening’ properties, it can cause more harm than good.
    Ndangue Liliane Josiane Rose is a France24 Observer and she explained the phenomenon.
    “Alum stone has different names in different regions. In the West, it’s called “wothi”, but on the coast, it’s called “loba”, which means “God’s thunder”. Women crush it into powder and mix it with water; sometimes, they add a bit of lemon juice or honey. They then use the concoction to clean their private parts, as the stone’s powder kills bacteria. But this mixture also provokes a momentary contraction of the vagina, which can give the appearance of virginity to a woman who has already had sexual relations,” she said.
    “Alum stone is most often used for this purpose in the northern regions of Cameroon, as well as in some parts of Nigeria. It’s commonly used by Hausa people [one of the largest ethnic groups in Africa]. In areas where the majority of the population is Muslim, there is a lot of pressure on women to be virgins until their wedding night. If a woman is not a virgin, she runs the risk of being shunned by her husband, and the other women in her family will also be looked down upon.”
    Photo: Anne Mireille Nzouankeu

    Doctor Joseph is a gynaecologist in Yaoundé. In 2010, he worked in a clinic in northern Cameroon where he treated women suffering from health issues stemming from their use of alum stone.
    “This so-called virginity is very short-lived, and sometimes the stone has no effect at all. However, its effects on a woman’s health are catastrophic,” he said.
    “In general, women should not put any products in their vaginas, since vaginas have a self-cleaning mechanism. Alum stone destroys the vaginal flora that helps protect women from sexually transmitted diseases. Moreover, because the stone’s powder has the consistency of sand, it inevitably provokes irritations, which can lead to serious cases of vaginitis. Finally, if a woman uses alum stone regularly, it will cause the vagina walls to become rigid, and they can then tear when they give birth. This technique should absolutely not be used.”

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  • Xavier
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    Cultures are so different in the way things are perceived...this sounds painful on both sides. Does not seem to be in winners in this "dry" exchange.

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  • Suesumba
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    Holy moly. I remember posting about "virgin soap" that I saw in an African store.

    My *dad* used alum for shaving cuts. I use hydrocortisone cream to get rid of pimples. I would appreciate it if some altruistic poster could use it on their "no never mind" and report back to us all. Just kidding

    Don't try that at home kids 😨

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  • Peasie
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    Originally posted by j-kid View Post
    Do dese oomen get orgasms?
    *step in only for this*

    heeem. women don't get orgasm from dem ahem. whatever state it is in.

    *step out*

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  • j-kid
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    Dry sex is usually fi men whe noh kno how fi properly please ooman, an tink sey every time shi ball out in pain, is pleasure, an ah soh it fi goh, which is real sad indeed.

    Do dese oomen get orgasms?
    Last edited by j-kid; 12-08-2014, 10:39 PM.

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  • missus_vegas
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    tip toe out a big ppl augiment.

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  • RichD
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  • Nunya
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    what a painful article...

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  • franksterr
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    Sounds painful.
    But according to people in the know, is women with big "ahem" practice dem ting dere.......some use Alum to augment and tighten up the "ahem".
    Though I must confess the women say it is only used when de man dem "supuhm" or endowment pose a physical challenge on the "teeny weeny" side.

    In medicine, alum is regularly employed as an astringent to shrink tissues and reduce the discharge of bodily fluids, as a styptic to contract organic tissues and stop or reduce hemorrhage and bleeding, and as an emetic agent to induce vomiting when someone has ingested poison. It is also often used to enhance certain vaccines and to prevent or treat infections. Veterinarians typically advise pet owners to apply the powdered version to animal cuts caused by improper nail trimming as a way to stop bleeding.
    http://www.wisegeek.org/what-are-the-medical-uses-of-alum.htm

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