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    I recently met a man who has been married for 40+ years. He spoke in glowing terms about his wife. He was so glad that he didnt listen to friends and family who told him not to get married. He also shared that as a young man, that he had not been the most faithful but he saw eventually that he needed to curb that behaviour. He never told his wife of these indiscretions. Is this something that he should or can take to his grave? Since he confessed to me, and will not likely repeat the behaviour, this is good enough right?

    If you were wife, would you like to know at this late stage? (Assuming she had no idea back then.)
    ~~~~People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing. That's why we recommend it daily. Zig Ziglar ~~~~

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    Its rare, in my opinion, that the person being cheated on doesn't have some vibe that something is a miss, but they seem to have worked through it. If his affairs were all in the long ago past and their relationship now is on an even keel, is there really any need to rock the boat? Unless some long lost pickney turns up on your doorstep, kibbah yuh mowt!

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    • #3
      ditto
      Every obstacle is an opportunity in disguise.

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      • #4
        agree with UKBL although why the man is telling DearK (or anyone) this so late in the game is beyond me.
        Last edited by Peasie; 10-01-2015, 06:42 AM. Reason: spelling

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        • #5
          Originally posted by UKBlackLady View Post
          Its rare, in my opinion, that the person being cheated on doesn't have some vibe that something is a miss, but they seem to have worked through it. If his affairs were all in the long ago past and their relationship now is on an even keel, is there really any need to rock the boat? Unless some long lost pickney turns up on your doorstep, kibbah yuh mowt!
          All so true!!! Well said. I think he's past the age where any love child may emerge so hey very well could settle in the twilight years without that chapter of history.
          ~~~~People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing. That's why we recommend it daily. Zig Ziglar ~~~~

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Peasie View Post
            agree with UKBL although why the man is telling DearK (or anyone) this so late in the game is beyond me.
            Right! And I know I;m approachable, but if he tells *me* at our one and only chance meeting, who knows how many other confessionals he's had I dont think of myself as that special to be the only one. So maybe he's nostalgic about those times- although I must say he seemed sincere. He said he purposefully avoids jobs that would reveal a cheating spouse- because pointing the finger at someone who has or is doing that would seem hypocritical. He was an interesting man who made my time waiting pass very quickly.
            ~~~~People often say that motivation doesn't last. Well, neither does bathing. That's why we recommend it daily. Zig Ziglar ~~~~

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