My favorite basketball team is the Golden State Warriors. Their motto is STRENGTH IN NUMBERS. I love their style of playing the game of basketball. Michelle and I are basketball freaks. Ever since I met Michelle we have been balling together. I call it LOVE AND BASKETBALL, which happens to be one of my favorite movies also. Michelle is a Miami Heat fan so we have bouts of rivalry throughout the season of basketball. The truth is we go at each other on the basketball court but once home we leave it outside the house and continue our marriage. I love the competition and so does she. The funny thing is, Michelle is the one who got me playing that game. I was a soccer player being from Jamaica.
I just love the Warriors because they really do play together and the strength they have together in numbers is what allowed them to win so many championships together. Your marriage needs strength to survive. One key ingredient to a healthy and thriving marriage is INTIMACY. I must be honest that when I first heard that word I thought of only one thing, SEX. I have come to learn that intimacy is not just sex although sex is a vital part of every happening marriage relationship. God created sex as an intimate act between husband and wife to be enjoyed within the confines of marriage only, and many married couples run with this luxury, with all right, but it is not the only thing God created for husband and wife to be intimate. If you are married and just having sex and think you are being fully intimate with your spouse, you are missing out BIG time. Yes, you must enjoy each other sexually but there are three other aspects of intimacy that are so powerful and vital for any marriage to be wholesome and great. These three other acts of intimacy combined with sexual intimacy is the strength in numbers that your marriage needs to be a winner. Here they are:
Have ever kept your feelings inside and not tell your spouse? Do you share your heart with your spouse. If not, you are missing out. Your emotions can bottle up inside of you and burst out the wrong way. You are married so you can share thoughts, dreams, feelings and just about anything personal with each other. Your wife is your rib. Your husband is your sidekick. Add this portion of your life to the sexual desires and you are creating a closeness that only a man and woman in marriage can enjoy as they become one flesh.
I love this part of intimacy. The truth is there is a liar and thief waiting to steal your joy you built together. When you said “I DO” this thief is upset and does everything to bring division in your marriage. But when husband and wife are on the same page spiritually, it is two against one. The devil cannot divide a married couple who are standing on a solid foundation of spiritual oneness. When both husband and wife are having a close relationship with God, they experience a powerful bond of spiritual togetherness. Nothing beats the power of a couple praying together, expecting God to move in their marriage together, reading the Bible together and applying what the Bible says to their marriage together. This is another part of intimacy I believe is of such vitality and will lead to greater sex.
There was a time when Michelle and I were not relating whatsoever in the marriage and there was such a thick cloud between us many years ago. Thank God we did something to clear that cloud. We decided to turn off television, the thing that stood between us relating, for one full year. We had to make a conscious effort to save our marriage relationship and we are now enjoying relating to each other on such a high level. He now laugh more and enjoying our time together as I make tea for her and sit together and relate about anything in the world. It is such a joyful moment that we both look forward to. You need to relate to elevate your marriage relationship. This can be a great time to share your sexual dreams and desires with each other in the confines of privacy.
May your fountain be blessed,
and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.
19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
may her breasts satisfy you always,
may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Proverbs 5:18-19
Huddle up and enjoy every moment as you both pour out to each other in intimate moments with all four aspects of intimacy that God created for your marriage to be filled with love, joy, peace and harmony.
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