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1 Key Ingredient To Spice Up A Dysfunctional Marriage

Have you ever been in a situation where nothing seem to go right?  An atmosphere of constant chaos and conflict is the last place any husband or wife want to be in.  The desire of all married couples is to have peace, joy, love and harmony in the marriage relationship.  When Michelle and I are at war, I cannot wait for cease fire!  We have had our share of issues and have come out of a season of dysfunction so we understand the darkness and pain many married couples are experiencing right now.

DYSFUNCTION:  deviation from the norms of social behavior in a way regarded as bad (Google definition).

Abnormal or unhealthy behaviors are the key result of a dysfunctional marriage relationship and many, if not all, marriages go through seasons of this dark time.  It is called a CRAZY CYCLE.  Husbands tend to refuse to show love to their wives and wives tend to hold back on showing respect to their husbands.  The root of this twist is usually one depending on the other’s behavior and attitude toward the other.  “You don’t show me love so I cannot show you respect” or you don’t show me respect so I cannot show you love.”  This is the most deceptive mindset leading to major dysfunctions of quarrels, malice, going to bed mad, kids hurting, and even divorce.  But only if husbands and wives can get this awesome reality in our minds put into action.  This one key ingredient is the answer to turning any dysfunctional marriage into a marriage that functions again with love, joy, peace and harmony.

Surrender To Obedience

This is the only way a marriage will function normal and well.  But how?  It takes sacrifice to start but once both follow along it works like clockwork for both husband and wife, it just takes both to commit to it.

God created marriage and gives wisdom as to how to have a great marriage.  He told every husband to love his wife, not love his perfect wife.  He did not say to love her if she shows respect to him.  He just said LOVE HER.

God told every wife to respect her husband, not to respect her PERFECT husband.  He did not say to respect him if he shows her love.  He just said RESPECT HIM.

Can you imagine if every husband learn how to love and every wife learn how to show respect?  Now picture, husbands OBEYING God by doing his part, loving his wife and every wife also OBEYING God by doing her part, respecting her husband.  This action on both part is the key to a great marriage.

It is very beneficial to obey the the one who created marriage, although it takes sacrifice.  Think about the long haul.  If you are in a dysfunctional marriage, take the step and do your part without waiting for your spouse to do their part.  Trust God to lift your marriage to greatness by changing your spouse.  Obedience is the key to change in your marriage.  You can do it!  Just trust the One who created marriage.  Michelle and I have experienced this truth.  Huddle up and enjoy each other as you become ONE!

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About The Author

Carim Hyatt

Carim Hyatt was born and raised partially in Jamaica, West Indies.  He is one of seven children from the Hyatt family and has grown into a great man of God.  Carim had the luxury of seeing his grandparents model a Christian family life while portraying a marriage in God’s image.  Carim had his mother in his life also and learned a great deal about values and wisdom.

Carim’s passion is marriage and family. He and his wife, Michelle, are hosts of MARRIAGE IN A MINUTE, a radio talk show reaching all over the world.   He has authored two books, The importance of Salvation and Staying Married Becoming One Flesh.   His journey has taken him from Insurance adjuster to minister through writing and public speaking.  Carim leads men’s ministries, married couples lifegroups, praise and worship along with many other areas of ministry as God has led him.  Carim and his beautiful wife Michelle have appeared on Television programs , namely TBN, speaking about marriage and family.  He is a great motivator, mentor and loves the Lord with all his heart.  His passion is to see every marriage go the long haul while being molded into God’s image.

Join Carim on this great journey as He reaches the unsaved for Christ while continuing to encourage marriages and families.

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